Having self-love in your 20s | Closeup
If someone were to ask you what the one thing is about yourself that you absolutely love, would you have a hard time answering?Having self-love is something many of us in our 20s struggle with. We’re always setting personal goals and when we don’t achieve it within a specific time frame, we feel like we aren’t good enough.
The key to being happy and loving yourself is to do some introspection and recognise the areas in your life that could do with a bit of change…
“You’re young, you’ve got your whole life ahead of you,” some people would say. But why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to do well and over-achieve so much so that we often neglect ourselves? Perhaps it’s time for some introspection…
Don’t be hard on yourself
Accept your flaws and work on the things that you are good at. Understand that some things about yourself (like the way you choose to perceive situations) can be changed and some can’t (like the colour of your eyes or shape of your mouth). Learn to love yourself just the way you are! If you’ve made a few mistakes, learn from it. Don’t beat yourself up. If a relationship hasn’t worked out, get over your ex and move on.
Put yourself first
It’s okay to say no. If you aim to please and always say “yes” to certain requests, it’s easy to simply shove your needs to the side. Don’t be quick to say yes if it will inconvenience you in any way. Sometimes, it’s okay to put your needs first.
Focus on the positives
It’s easy to think about what all your friends are achieving so much so that you forget about how far you’ve come too. Take a step back, look at what you’ve accomplished so far and be proud of yourself. Make a list of all your accomplishments and celebrate how far you’ve come. It doesn’t have to be materialistic at all, if you’ve managed to eat healthier or stop procrastinating; it’s a good enough reason to be happy! By focusing on how far you’ve come you will feel good about yourself and recognise your potential.
Surround yourself with the right people
Believe it or not, the people in your circle can have a huge impact on how you view yourself. Have friends and family in your circle that lift you up instead of break you down. Find people who will respect the journey you have chosen to be on and who will appreciate and encourage you.
It may be a bit too late to start a new year’s resolution but if you could change one thing about your life, let it be to fall in love with yourself. Take care of your appearance as well and make sure you always have fresh breath so that you can feel confident wherever you go.